Confidence是自信心。A confident person是一個有信心的人。
      缺乏信心，做任何事都特別難。社交場合見到陌生人會怯懦，日開會時明明有好意見卻不敢發言，缺乏信心弊處實在很多。
      要補救lack of confidence（缺乏信心）的問題，自然就是要build confidence（建立信心）。那應如何開始呢？Mike McClement在Brilliant Confidence中教大家，首先是要消除對confidence的錯誤觀念。

      才華漂亮≠自信
      誤解一："You have to be talented to be confident."（你必先有才華才會有信心。）
      人人的才華都不同。有人是體育健將，有人歌唱得好，也有人智力特別高，但卻不一定代表他們有信心。就算是電視節目主持人，天天在百萬觀眾面前表演，都會有信心問題。
      "The key is to be satisfied in your own abilities and to know that you are giving your best."信心是來自清楚和滿足於自己的能力，知道自己有盡力而為。關鍵是："The way to make this work is to accept that what's important is what you think, not what others think about       you."太意別人對自己的看法反會削弱信心。
      另一個誤解是︰信心完全來自外表。漂亮的人才會有信心。
      其實這個想法的謬誤問一個問題便可打破：在你認識的人中，充滿信心的那些有幾位長得像明星？
      I'll bet the majority of them don't look like Brad Pitt or Angelina Joli, do they? In fact - would you describe any of them as good       looking? Maybe one or two perhaps, but you'd expect that with the law of averages.
      Law of averages是平均定率。有信心的人當然有小部分是特別漂亮或英俊，但這不會比人口中的平均數為高。

      做人做事有條理
      Mike McClement又說，一些好像不相關的事，其實與信心有很大關係。例如做人做事有條理。

      有條理是organized︰
      You'll feel more confident, and there's more chance people will perceive you as confident and in control, if they see you as an organized, tidy and efficient person.
      生活中，工作上，事事都像失控，就很難對自己有信心，也很難令人覺得你有信心。

      另外，也問自己：
      How many confident people do you know who are disorganized（缺乏條理）? If you can think of any, they tend to be the exception to the rule. Confident people are naturally（自然地） organized, both practically and mentally.
      Exception to the rule解例外。若你認識有信心的人中有些是做事無組織、沒條理，他們大概是exception to the rule。